Husband Requirements PART 2

I want a real man. 

Is that even a thing these days?? 

I feel like people in general are of a shallow nature, showcasing their outer physical attributes rather than their deeper real self. 

There seems to be an abundance of men that look like they are characters in a cartoon. Gym selfies and mountaintop pics is every second profile pic. (They may be the perfect man, but I overlook these images) Is this really portraying who you are? As much as physical attraction is very important, the photos placed in these profiles can be the portrayed in a different sense. I look at some, and they are gorgeous men, clearly very dedicated to perfecting their bodies, pictures of pure fitness (and very nice eye candy), but they make me uneasy. I automatically feel every spare moment of theirs will be filled with bettering their bodies and nothing outside of that. 

Then, there’s the drunken group shots. Bottles of beer, spirits and the like, 5 or 6 men pulling faces, having a great time but it’s not really portraying a man that wants grown up lifestyle. Have fun, always, but these to me are pics for your friends, not ones to find a potential love interest. 

There are beautiful shots of men with family, their muchloved pets, and uninhibited, unexpected snapshots of them living their real lives. Sitting at a desk, mowing the lawn, playing with children, relaxing at the beach. These are the pictures I want to see. When someone’s eyes are lit up talking to a loved one and has a random, unposed photo taken it shows more about them as a person. I think it’s beautiful.

I want deep. A man that fills his profile with words. Explanations of what makes their blood run hot or cold, what are your passions, your goals, your dreams and relationship expectations?

I want someone who is completely transparent, and honest. Someone whom is not still discovering himself. Someone who knows how to treat people right, but is strong enough not to be walked over. 

Strength in themselves, standing by their choices and decisions, not needing another person to make them whole, but wanting someone to take this life journey along side them.

Someone that respects family and a family lifestyle above their own selfishness and wants. 

Someone that is passionate about me and life. 

Someone that’s not afraid to feel and feel deeply, intensely and passionately.

Someone that knows how to make their dreams reality- not just talk about them.

Someone generous with their time and knows how to make a relationship a priority.

Someone that is ready to have joint goals. Who is there to build up their partner, and who is wanting a partner to also help them achieve their dreams. Together you can conquer so much. 

It’s going to take someone really special to alter my single status. 


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Single Ladies day of Love

So it begins for another year. The questions, the whispers, the giggles, the dread. Why does Valentine’s Day seem to sneak up so quickly each year. It’s a holiday that fills so many with joy and excitement, love, flowers and butterflies in the tummy. I can almost see girls with emoji styled hearts popping out of their eyeballs in anticipation for what their love is going to spoil them with- is this the year he gives me flowers, jewelry or the one sparkly piece they want so much. Me…meh 
Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love Love, being in love, and Valentines Day. I’ve been that girl. I’ve been so excited for what the day would bring and so very nervous about when or how the spoils would be delivered, and mostly excited for what could be the first of a forever of valentines days with my knight in shining armour. Unfortunately I’ve never had more than 2 valentines with the one partner. I have spent more on my own than with a loved one. My only consistent Valentines is a card from my daughter (which is cherished, loved and saved for ever) 
I used to get so upset and hate being on my own for this chocolatey heartfilled day. I became the negative Nancy that would tell everyone it was such a stupid day. “It’s so commercialized, you should make your partner feel loved everyday, do we need one day of the year for this…blah blah, blah”

However secretly all I wanted was someone to share the experience with. Id act excited and happy for everyone whilst wallowing in my unworthiness of the day. My Valentines was spent groaning at a Facebook feed filled with gushing love posts while feeding myself with chocolate and wine purchased by myself, to share with my lonesome self.
I’ve now taken a new perspective on the day. There’s so much hatred in the world on a daily basis, why not have this day of the year to celebrate all the people in your life that you love. Be it your husband or wife, partner, parents, siblings or children. Love yourself for Valentine’s Day. I love life and don’t need one particular person to make the day amazing!! I’m surrounded by love daily. 

Now I embrace the day. I show myself love. I go get a massage, I take myself out for lunch and I genuinely am happy for everyone that’s all loved up and glowing. I really love seeing men turn up at workplaces with a bunch of roses, seeing couples basking in their excited love bubbles. I genuinely am happy for everyone showing the love!!

I also am looking forward to receiving the beautiful card from my baby girl, and hiding a heart chocolate a love note in her lunchbox for the day.

I think we should celebrate our love more often then February 14th!! 

Every day should be inspired by Valentine’s Day ūüėć

Show love everywhere, everyday to everyone 

Fantasy and realities of uniformed men 

The image of a uniformed man, is enough to make most women weak in the knees. The ultimate fantasy.Whether it is the powerful hero saving you as the damsel in distress fantasy, the uniform (or removing it) fantasy, or just the fact he must be damn amazing to protect the country, communities and us fantasy, the reality is, it is super sexy.

Are you cut out to actually be with one though?
Dating a man in uniform is a huge honour and responsibility.

It takes an incredibly strong and self aware person to take on this rewarding, yet hard role.
Be it military, police, firies or any other emergency response team, as exciting, sexy, intense and adventurous it may be, it comes with an element of fear. Fear for their partner, fear for their lives, fear from their families and fear for their country.
These sexy heroes see things, do things and feel things we in the normal world can not even begin comprehend. They have their secrets that they keep close so they do not scare or hurt the ones they hold so dear. Can you understand the silences and inner pain he may be holding on to- to save you from worry.
They work long, crazy days, shifts or are often away for days, weeks or months at a time. You will never be far from his thoughts. They need to know their loved ones feel secure when they leave. It is just as heartbreaking for them to go to work at times and leave their precious partner behind. Are you able to provide him with the love and trust needed to keep his mind on his very important job, so he knows you are happy?
They may feel lost and alone, and struggle to cope with the horrible daily truths of their job, but they will love you all the more for supporting and loving them. They feel bad they cannot always be there for you- another stress for them, and yet when they are, your man will not disappoint.
Dating/marrying a man in uniform means being with a man of loyalty. If a man can put his life on the line for his country, imagine what he will do for you.

HUSBAND REQUIREMENTS Part 1

I have been single on and off for 10 years. I’ve dated, I’ve had small relationships, I’ve been madly, deeply in love. I’ve been shattered and painfully heartbroken. I’ve been lied to, cheated on, beaten up on and taken for a ride many times.
There’s been Tinder, POF, Eharmony and plenty of other time wasting sites. I’ve tried bars, libraries, cafes, parties and weddings.

After many a blind date, kiss or message, the never-ending search for my knight in shining armour continues..

It’s getting desperate, time is running out. Family have given up on my wedding, friends always have me as the third wheel to date night, The body-clock is ticking and I am considering purchasing bulk cats now (lord, help me)

I am almost convinced that men of today want quantity of women, not quality. That the world is so disposable, there is no need for commitment as there’s always another girl waiting for her right swipe. Not me. I am hopeful for my man with the same intentions and big heart that I have.¬†

So I’ve decided I am going to do several posts of my future husband requirements, (then, to find him)¬†

Here is the first…

WANTED 

1 honest, caring, family orientated GROWN UP male. (If you have a Lego/toy collection, give silent treatment, throw tantrums, lie or are still figuring out what you want to be when you grow up, please do not respond) 

This said GROWN UP male, will have no commitment, mummy or mental issues.

He will be ready for adult activities, including, weekends away, restaurant dinners, glasses of wine, day trips to different locations, and adventuring around our beautiful country. (Pizza doesn’t count as a date)¬†

This special GROWN UP male will NOT ride motorbikes, or participate in illegal activities

Since he is a GROWN UP, he will work hard in his career, but be balanced with his downtime. Has set goals for his life and has already achieved some.

This GROWN UP male will not lie and pretend to be someone he is not

He wants to have children and be a hands on full time parent

This GROWN UP male will be kind, loving, funny, calm and caring. He will have a huge heart that loves his family, be centered, fun and stable.

This GROWN UP male will be man enough to realize mine and his own value. He Will prioritise his time, put the same level of effort into me as I do him, and be proud to have an amazing, strong, hardworking and sarcastic woman on his arm. 

If you have made it to the end of this profile, tick all these boxes,and realise the satire in some of my requests you must be amazing and I can’t wait to hear from you. You will be rewarded with a coffee, a chat and a hope of a happily ever after.

I’m looking for a serious contender in this game of love.