While watching one of my much loved reality shows during the week (Married at First Sight), one of the conversations by one of the most hated men on our televisions at the moment got me to thinking.
The said discussion took place at a family dinner and he (Anthony), mentioned his “wife” Nadia had insecurities about him not “choosing” her. For the few of you that don’t watch, the relationship experts choose the potential love interests of the participants.
I actually really resonated with this point he made. There is nothing better than being chosen. Chosen by the person you love, chosen by friends and loved ones, chosen for you – the amazing and fabulous person you are.
To be chosen by someone you also chose is the dream, your most wanted end goal. To feel secure.
Feelings are scary things. It takes a person really secure in themselves to open themselves up completely to another person. I find many men (and women) aren’t sure of how to communicate their feelings, or aren’t willing to jump into a deeper level of emotion because of fear.
Ultimately fear can be an enabler to your success or failure in life or love. We need to be a little bit scared but also take a chance. So many facets of our fears create our inner insecurities. Imagine not having the control to pick your life partner.
Forever questions of do they find me attractive? Do they enjoy my company? Do they love or even like me? It would be deafening in your head. Waking next to a stranger and hoping tomorrow will be enjoyable and not awkward. Hoping to discover some joint interests and common ground.
It’s so empowering to have the gift of choice, sometimes way too many that the decision processes in so many aspects of our lives are endless. But to be chosen by someone is so special.
So many cultures do not have this luxury. They are often sold to a husband, handpicked by their parents or elders. They don’t have the opportunities to be selected by their special someone. As much as prearranged marriages are at times successful- these people (male and female) miss out on the excitement of being chosen by their soul mate.
Knowing that someone has picked you out of the many potential suitors to call their own forever, is an incredible thing. They have done this, no need for doubts and questions, no one else to blame, they chose you, all by themselves.
The excitement, elation, love and security within your relationship is set on a beautiful foundation of mutual
The gift of choice is an amazing luxury we have. We should be focusing on how honoured we are to be chosen by these great people- out of everyone they chose you.
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